Thirsty Much? 5 Signs Your Next Relationship Will Crash and Burn

Miranda Marquit

As humans, we have a tendency to seek out relationships. This is especially true when it comes to romantic relationships. If you’ve just got out of one relationship you might be ready for something new.

Don’t just jump in, though. You don’t want your next relationship to crash and burn. Here are some red flags that might indicate that your next relationship is doomed:

You’re not comfortable with yourself.

If you don’t like yourself, there is a good chance that your next relationship will fail. Even if it doesn’t, it might not be a healthy relationship to be in.

Before you heat things up, make sure that you love yourself. Even though I have been dating a little bit recently, I’m not sure I’m actually ready for a new relationship.

I actually enjoy being alone with myself and getting to know who I am again. Before you embark on a new relationship adventure, Make sure you’re comfortable with yourself and that you like yourself for who you are. When You have those good feelings about yourself, and that confidence, you are more likely to find someone who respects and loves you for who you are.

You play games in a relationship.

Anytime there is game playing involved in a relationship, that’s a red flag. It can be fun to play games and it can make you feel good about your power.

Unfortunately, you make a relationship about power and games and who has the upper hand, there is a good chance that relationship won’t last very long.

Stop worrying so much about when it’s okay to call back and agonizing over how to construct every text. Be real and genuine and stay away from someone who is playing games with you.

You demand proof of love.

Many of us grew up on those princess movies that show the guy engaging in some huge attempts to prove his love. We’ve also seen these kinds of gestures from women trying to show men how much they are in love.

When you demand a proof of love that is extravagant or out of the ordinary, that’s a sure fire sign for a huge fail. There’s nothing wrong was wanting to do something big with your SO, for trying to surprise him or her. But when the relationship becomes more about the stuff and the surprise than it is about the little things that you do together every day, and the little things you love about your partner, that’s a big problem.

You never disagree.

There is no way that you will always agree with someone all the time. In fact, if you always agree on everything all the time that’s a pretty good sign that someone isn’t being totally honest.

If you don’t disagree ever, you might find out down the road that you have very different ideas of what you want the relationship to be. Additionally, you might be surprised to discover that your SO has some pretty strong feelings that they never told you about in the interest of avoiding confrontation.

Healthy disagreement and an understanding of how to overcome these disagreements and compromise our parts have a good relationship. If you want to have a relationship that lasts, you need to figure out where your disagreements are, and learn how to work through them in a healthy manner.

You don’t agree on the big stuff.

While it’s true that you’re going to have some disagreements about some things, the really big red flag is if you have disagreements about some of the big core value things that you believe.

It’s one thing to disagree about what movie you want to watch on a Friday night or to have slightly different hobbies. In fact, having some different hobbies and a little bit of alone time can be good for relationship. The trouble comes in when you disagree about major issues and fundamental values.

I already know to avoid any online dating profile that says he is looking for more children. I don’t want more kids, so hooking up with someone who does makes no sense in my situation. Other fundamental differences that can impact your relationship might include how you handle money, your basic feelings of ethics and morality, and maybe even your religion.

Some of these big things can be worked out to compromise. I know plenty of Democrats and Republicans that are married to each other and somehow it works. There’re also plenty of mixed faith relationships that aren’t problematic. (Although this can change when kids come along.)

When you have fundamental disagreements about life and values those are very hard to overcome. If you find yourself realizing that you don’t want the same thing in the long-term, that’s a sure sign that your relationship is going to fizzle out at some point.

Before you start your next relationship, or if you’re in the early stages of a new relationship, double-check the situation. You don’t want to end up crashing and burning is starting to process all over again because you didn’t heed the warning signs.