[A022] Yes or No: Do All the Things Except Some

Find the right balance between staying open to opportunities and avoiding too much distraction from your goals.

One of the toughest things to do is to learn which things to say no to — and which to say yes to. It’s tempting to want to do all the things. However, chances are that you say yes to more than you should.

When you are bogged down by obligations, you reach the point where you need to say no, for your own sanity. Unfortunately, when you try to hard to do all the things, you might end up in a situation where you can’t say yes to the opportunities you really want.

In order to avoid becoming overcome by all you need to do, it’s important to understand what really matters to you. Narrow it down. Focus on the essentials, and then expand from there, only saying yes to the things that you really want to do. And if you need help figuring out what’s most important, create a life map.


  • Why are we so inclined to say yes? Why do we want to do all the things?
  • Reasons that it’s sometimes a good idea to say no.
  • How to position yourself so you can take advantage of unexpected (and good!) opportunities.
  • Tips for balancing others’ needs with your own needs.
  • The reality of “busy-ness.” Just because you’re busy doesn’t mean you are accomplishing anything.
  • How to identify the true essentials in your life so that you are more effective.

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American Psychological AssociationWhen and how graduate students should say no.
Mayo ClinicStress management: when to say no.
LifehackTo boost your potential, say yes.

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[A022] Yes or No: Do All the Things Except Some was last modified: March 3rd, 2017 by Harlan and Miranda

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